Several years ago, I lost my only son in a tragic accident. As a mother, losing my child was the single most painful experience of my life. In the depths of my grief, I struggled to find ways to cope with the immense loss and heartbreak.
One day, I reconnected with the world of female superheroes - those strong, resilient, empowered women who overcome immense challenges and adversity. I was instantly drawn to their strength, courage and determination in the face of suffering and loss. These superheroes inspired me and gave me a sense of hope that I could survive this and be strong for my husband, family, and friends.
As I delved deeper into their stories, I found a source of connection with these superheroines who had also experienced loss and tragedy. Their ability to rise up from the ashes of despair showed me what I was capable of, even in my darkest moments. Cosplaying as some of these characters gave me an outlet to express the emotions I was bottling up inside. For a few moments, I could escape from my pain and immerse myself in their power and strength.
Most importantly, these superheroines reminded me of my own inner strength - the strength that had gotten me through so many of life’s challenges in the past. Though that strength felt out of reach in my grief, their stories inspired me to keep going. They gave me permission to not be okay, but to never stop fighting.
In honor of my son’s vibrant spirit, I have created 101 Badass Superhero Affirmations: Positive Thoughts for Black Women. This book combines inspirational thoughts from some of the strongest, most courageous superheroines with positive affirmations for women still fighting their own battles. It is a reminder of the immense power we all have within us, even when we can’t see it.
Though my grief will always remain, using superheroines as a source of strength and inspiration has given me a way to carry on my son’s memory while also nurturing my own healing. My hope is that this book will do the same for other women in need of a reminder of their own badassery. Our stories may be different, but within each of us is a superhero waiting to rise.
To all the mothers who have lost a child - I see you. Your pain is powerful, but so is the love you gave and the joy you shared while they were here. Though it may not feel like it now, you have the strength and courage of every superheroine who ever overcame. Hard days will come, but keep fighting for them and for you.
This book is for the little girl I once was, dreaming of heroes. It's for the woman I have become, who now knows heroism intimately. But most of all, it's for my son who will always be my reason why - my joy, my laughter, my heart. Asante, this one's for you. You're still my hero.
Forever your Badass Superhero Mom!
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